13 Habits of Mentally Strong Women

  • One way mentally strong women invest in themselves is by fostering healthy, rewarding relationships.
  • Aligning your vision and goals with your personal values results in greater success and happiness.   
  • Mentally strong people are always confident because they know their worth.

Being mentally strong isn’t necessarily something you are born with. It can be developed by consistently practicing mentally strong habits. Just as negative habits can change your life, positive habits can have a huge impact! Habits are the building blocks to success, and research has shown that about 40% of the things we do every day are based on our habits. When we look at the habits of mentally strong women, we can see there are similarities, and these women practice many of the same positive habits! If you are looking to make some approvements in your life, take a look at these 13 habits of mentally strong women:

“Mentally strong women own their power and are in control of their destiny”   —Robert Moment, The Mental Strength Life Coach

1. They believe in themself no matter what.

“Whether you think you can, or your think you can’t, you’re right” – Henry Ford really got it right with this quote! Self-efficacy is our belief in our abilities, specifically our belief in our own ability to handle challenging situations. This concept was first described by psychologist Albert Bandura, and the relationship between self-efficacy and success has been wildly studied since. Women with a strong sense of self-efficacy and belief in their abilities are more likely to reach their goals, stick to commitments, and weather stressful situations. For example, a woman with a high sense of self-efficacy would feel she is capable and able to do the new job she is applying for or is able to lose the weight she wants because she knows she is able to stick to a new health regime and achieve results.

Women that own their power are confident in their abilities, decisions, values, and goals.

2. They invest in themselves and know their value.

People can invest in themselves in many ways, from financial to time investments. One way mentally strong women invest in themselves is by fostering healthy, rewarding relationships. There are fundamental characteristics of a rewarding relationship, including mutual respect, honesty, and boundaries. All relationships are a two-way street, and to receive value, you must put it in. Strong women build business relationships at work and establish themselves as a source of information, guidance, and value. They know the value they bring and invest in themselves by making a difference in their workplace.

3. They lead the way with values and vision.

Values and visions are like a road map. Without them, you are bound to get lost and may not get to your final destination. Mentally strong women are clear on their values and what is most important to them. Their values are aligned with their vision for all aspects of their life, including their career, relationships, health, and financial goals. These values lead every action and decision. Aligning your vision and goals with your personal values results in greater success and happiness.

4. They own their power.

Mentally strong women known that real power comes from them. Power isn’t given with a new job title or income level – it’s generated from within! Women that own their power are confident in their abilities, decisions, values, and goals. By owning their power, they maintain strong relationships and seek new opportunities. They advocate for themselves and others, practice self-care, ask for help when they need it, and aren’t afraid to voice their opinion.

5. They establish big boundaries.

Boundaries are necessary for all relationships, from home to the office. Mentally strong women set big boundaries and enforce them. By doing so, they respect themselves and others. They understand their limits and practice self-awareness to monitor their boundaries. They protect their mental and physical well-being, time, focus, and energy by being direct and saying no when their boundaries are encroached upon.

6. They have unshakeable confidence.

Mentally strong people are always confident because they know their worth. High-performing, successful women who reach for their goals, are comfortable in their skin, and able to speak their minds have unshakeable confidence. These women are more likely to have their needs met because they are able to be vulnerable enough to say what they need and go after what they want. This type of confidence isn’t necessarily innate but is an ongoing effort, practiced through unconditional acceptance, authenticity, and self-forgiveness.

7. They have a fearless mindset.

A fearless mindset opens up an entirely new world of opportunities. It’s so important, to know that F.E.A.R. is False Evidence Appearing Real! Mentally strong women have a fearless mindset, know how to navigate feelings of fear, and remove it when it doesn’t serve them. This positive habit gives them more control over their lives, as they don’t let feelings of fear hold them back. A fearless mindset is a success-strategy practiced by athletes, successful entrepreneurs, and mentally strong women!

8. They practice self-love and self-care. 

As the saying goes, you can’t pour from an empty cup, and mentally strong women know they need to fill their cup before they can give to others. These women engage in self-love and self-care by nurturing their mental and physical health. They do this by incorporating healthy habits in their daily lives that promote and protect their wellbeing. Morning meditation, exercise, a nutritious diet, and adequate sleep are just a few of the ways these women take care of themselves every day. Self-love and self-care can also include taking time out of their day to do something they enjoy, just for them, like taking an art class or reading a book. Although the way it is practiced may look different, the fact that they make self-love and self-care a priority is consistent among mentally strong women.

9. They build and maintain strong relationships.

Scientific evidence shows that healthy relationships contribute to a healthy, happy life! Positive friendships, work, and romantic relationships are proven to increase life span, help cope with stress, and make people feel happier! Mentally strong women make a conscious effort to build strong relationships by meeting more people, engaging in meaningful conversations, and being a pillar of support for those in their lives.

10. They understand that vulnerability is powerful.

As humans, we all have imperfections and to be open about these and show vulnerability is a display of strength. Vulnerability can help us connect with others and strengthen relationships. Mentally strong women are confident and secure enough to be vulnerable, and they realize the power vulnerability has in relationships and getting their needs met. No one can do it all! A woman who is vulnerable enough to ask for help is much more likely to receive the help she needs than a woman who puts up a façade of perfection!

A woman who is vulnerable enough to ask for help is much more likely to receive the help she needs than a woman who puts up a façade of perfection!

11. They identify their needs. 

We often become consumed with setting clear and concise goals, but what about needs? What do you need from your relationships, and job? The mentally strong are clear on their needs and make sure these non-negotiables in their life are met. By identifying their needs, they can more effectively communicate these to others. For example, a mentally strong woman can communicate her needs to her partner and children.

12. They set S.M.A.R.T goals.

Starting with the end in mind and setting S.M.A.R.T goals is an effective way to get to where you want to go! When mentally strong women set goals, they ensure they are Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Relevant, and Timely! This trackable way to set objectives significantly increases the likelihood of achieving these goals. A strategy often used by large organizations, this goal-writing system can be applied to personal goals as well.

13. They design their ideal life and celebrate successes.

Lifestyle design is much more than a buzzword; it’s a proven strategy to living a life you love that aligns with your values, passion, and purpose. Those who design their ideal life are more likely to love every aspect of it! Designing their life can mean selecting a career that works best for them in every way – it may even mean creating their own business that gives them the freedom to work how and when they want. Those who do what they love are more likely to succeed. And with success comes celebration! Celebrating your successes helps you achieve goals and is a proven strategy to increasing sense of self-efficacy (habit #1 ) and confidence (habit #6). Mentally strong women celebrate their successes and build on these to reach higher and set new goals. They are able to reinforce their positive attitude and behaviors, which ultimately increases and strengthens them.

Research has shown that it takes 21 days to form a habit. If you want to become a mentally strong woman, incorporate these habits into your daily life over the next 21 days and watch your life transform!

Excerpts adapted from the Book titled- 13 Habits of Mentally Strong Women.

Robert Moment

Robert Moment is an experienced and highly skilled ICF Certified Emotional Intelligence Coach, Trainer, Speaker and Author of the book , High Emotional Intelligence for Managers. Robert specializes in developing managers, executives and employees to achieve high emotional intelligence for peak performance and success.   Robert is Certified to deliver The Social + Emotional Intelligence Profile-Self (SEIP) ® Assessment, the most comprehensive, scientifically validated, and statistically reliable instrument on the market and review the results with clients and create a comprehensive developmental action plan. This includes the self and 360-versions as well as workplace and adult editions.  

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