A Day in the Park

  • The negative effects of fear.
  • Develop a can do attitude.
  • Do not be scared to try.

As I walked down the street heading for the park, I needed the space to let my kids play, relax and have fun since the weather smiled good on us that day. Being indoor and dressing like the Eskimos when stepping out is not always fun you know. So once there’s an opportunity for a little dress down it gives so much joy!

Courage (also called bravery or valour) is the choice and willingness to confront agony, pain, danger, uncertainty, or intimidation. Physical courage is bravery in the face of physical pain, hardship, death or threat of death, while moral courage is the ability to act rightly in the face of popular opposition, shame, scandal, discouragement, or personal loss.

We got to the park and the kids whose excitement of course was boundless set out to enjoy themselves. They played and rolled and had fun(in my little head I wished I was just 6years old and didn’t have to worry about nothing, such innocence). As I sat down to let my self enjoy some “deep thinking moments”, I overheard this very interesting conversation between a dad and his child.

He was trying to convince him to try a particular swing in the park. But the child wouldn’t budge. Dad he replied “but am so scared.” His father tried to reassure him that there’s nothing to be afraid of because he will stay just behind him and save him if something goes wrong. Oh well my little child friend still was afraid to give it a try… at that moment I realized yet another dangerous effect of negative fear!

Over the years I have experienced people who would rather not attempt a thing. They already believe they cannot do it even without as much as lifting a finger to try! From the story above, the child would not even get close to the swing not to speak of making an attempt (even if it was a failed one).

Fear has the force to keep you bound, instead of possessing a can do attitude you recoil and rather consider all the available reasons on why “you cannot”!!! Now the story is about a child, but as adults there may be adventures/ positions/heights/skills etc we have failed to embrace or try simply because we fear the outcome! Now understand this, there will always be an outcome so whether you attempt a thing or not, you definitely have an outcome, the question is what outcome?

Fear is a feeling induced by perceived danger or threat that occurs in certain types of organisms, which causes a change in metabolic and organ functions and ultimately a change in behavior, such as fleeing, hiding, or freezing from perceived traumatic events. Fear in human beings may occur in response to a certain stimulus occurring in the present, or in anticipation or expectation of a future threat perceived as a risk to body or life.

Life is full of so many possibilities that you cannot afford to let fear keep you bound as if you are still a child! We must learn to deal with the negative effects of fear and damn it’s lies.

As I reminisced over what transpired between the father and child, I could see a lot of dreams dashed and a lot of work to be done as well. When we have no support it’s a different ball game, but when we have a strong support system and still remain “fearful” it means fear has become “your stronghold” and has to be taken down immediately if you must move ahead in life. This particularly reminds me of the verse in the Bible that admonished us to remember we have not been given the spirit of fear, but of sound mind and boldness (Paul writing to Timothy).

We must refuse to let fear control our minds! Because we have been built and created with the “soundest” of minds. Today tell your older self that (he/she) will be proud of the fearless decisions you took, and tell your self today that you are ready to launch out and try all that you can! I charge you today to posses the “CAN DO ATTITUDE” and watch fear move away!

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Adaobi Ezeadum

A licensed Nigerian Attorney. A Writer and Author.  Passionate about  helping women understand that they can be mastermind of great innovations and that fear should never win.


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