Foster Parenting

  • This article was written by a former social worker for Outagamie County about my wife after she passed away on October 15th.
  • Erv and Cheryl Fischer showed me foster parents rock and Cheryl is the pillar. This is what permanency should look like when children are adopted.
  • Cheryl has been battling bone cancer for the past 7 years. Cancer is what took her life. Yet, she still continued to foster children until a month prior to her death.

The below email was sent by a long time social worker in Outagamie County. It truly talks about a selfless individual. Read below:

I attended a funeral for a foster parent for Outagamie County that had a profound impact on me, and I would like to share with my co-workers. Many times we question the work we do. Are we making a difference? The funeral for Cheryl Fisher, showed me we do. Cheryl passed away on October 15, 2018. She had been a foster parent to hundreds of children in the past 30 years for Outagamie County.

I am a former CPS Intake worker who placed many children in foster care and wondered, “what am I am doing? I’m tearing families apart…etc.”

This funeral and the messages I heard and the former foster children and adoptive children of Erv and Cheryl Fischer showed me foster parents rock and Cheryl is the pillar. This is what permanency should look like when children are adopted.

The family had a photo book of Cheryl’s life. In that book, was the foster care license for Outagamie County. Being a foster parent was so much of who Cheryl was. I can’t even count in the funeral how many times it was referenced. She invited “broken children,” scared and feeling alone into her home. She showed them unconditional love, patience and understanding. I saw former foster children, now adults and some still children, walk up to the casket of Cheryl and mourn her as only a child could do for their parent. The bond these children have with Cheryl was amazing and heartbreaking. Birth parents were there thanking Cheryl was caring for her children when they couldn’t.

Cheryl wasn’t your typical foster parent. She lived and breathed foster care. It was who she was, as much as she was a wife, mother, sister, aunt, to many. I truly feel she was the “Mother Teresa,” to foster care. Cheryl has been battling bone cancer for the past 7 years. Cancer is what took her life. Yet, she still continued to foster children until a month prior to her death. Outagamie County social workers had to go into her home and remove 2 children from her so she could focus on herself and her health. I feel Outagamie County owes her a debt of gratitude for the service she has given foster children in Outagamie County. She was the true picture of what one would want as a foster parent: selfless, caring and unwilling to give up on kids.

Thank you Cheryl Fisher, you are my hero. Heaven has been given an angel that was once here for children in Outagamie County in need of a foster parent.

You made a difference in the lives of children in Outagamie County!

Fly high my friend!

Lori Hewitt,CSW

Parent Resource Program

Outagamie County DHHS

Ervin Fischer

61 year old married 41 years foster parent 35 years

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