- How to gain Happiness-Peace of mind
Peace of mind is all about happiness.
Usually we start searching for peace of mind after 50-60% of our life is already completed, but I feel one has to understand the meaning of happiness at a very early age to gain peace of mind.
First, every person needs to focus on reducing the unnecessary needs in their life, and try to be happy with whatever one has. Parents are the key players in this process, to help children understand how to be happy rather than trying to fill their unnecessary wants and needs.
There are some parents who have very little money but still, in order to fulfill the unnecessary needs and wants of children, they take out loans to make their children happy. The more wants they fulfill, the more their children’s expectations grow. Further failing to fulfilling the needs of these children leads to frustration, and they start feeling less happiness as happiness does not live in all those wants.
An unhappy person impacts multiple people: parents, family, friends, relatives etc. Learning to “need” less is the basic foundation of happiness. This approach to happiness is applicable to everyone, whether they are lower, middle or upper class.
You may be wondering why I have suggested this understanding of happiness should come at a young age. The reason is that as the age of a person increases, their ability to understand and implement this principle decreases.
You might have noticed people starting up yoga, meditation, and/or gym classes after they get married or when they start working, but these “stress relievers” only give us a temporary peace of mind.
It is the unnecessary “wants” and “needs” that prevent us from having peace of mind.
How one can gain happiness and peace at a very early age with less effort:
Make children adopt more natural things rather than artificial things, as natural things are free and last longer. Examples would be: prayer, gardening, reading at the library, taking them with you for a morning walk so that they can feel the fresh natural air rather than artificial things built at home.
If they wish to have ice cream or other store bought items try, if possible, to make them at home or bring them home and enjoy them with the family. This will produce more happiness and help them stay connected. Spend money on games, clothes, shows, movies but try to keep them within limits. Travel once every 3 months for a short time to different places.
I know this advice is easy to give but harder as a parent to implement. However, if you can meet this goal even 60% of the time, then you’ve given them and “internal” yoga and meditation that will last them for a lifetime. Even if at some point as adults they loose their happiness/peace, this foundation will help them to gain it back.
There are many ways to feel temporary happiness/peace, but the only long lasting method is to actually develop this within ourselves and the younger the age we start the better.